1. Your Race Affects Whether People Write You Back » OK Cupid Blog Before you say anything - it’s actually well done and an interesting read. The OK Cupid staff processed some raw data to find out exactly how users matched across race and subsequently, how users respond to others across races. The results weren’t particularly shocking as I am living it everyday, but still, to see this chart I get a very real physical reaction. A general malaise. In short, Black women are the least desirable women on the site. And overwhelmingly so. I mean look at that sad pink/orange bar. In the comment’s section of the post, hundreds of faux scholars (idiots) drolled on about how this data doesn’t mean anything, and maybe it’s just CULTURAL differences, maybe more black women are fat. Maybe more black women use bad grammar/text speak. It’s totally not racist to not want to date one race. It’s just a preference! I wish there were a sound associated with plainface, blank stare blinking - the sound of eyelashes going up and down. Because that’s what you’d hear from me right now. Toothsuck. I agree that a preference and inclination to your own race is not racist. But the buck stops there. EXCLUDING races is, in fact, fucked up. It’s not racist in the sense that Blacks riding in the back of the bus was institutionally racist, but I mean, come on. In the article, they also display users’ answers to the question “Would you prefer to date someone of your own race?” Non-whites answered around the 25% yes, 75% no range while white men and women were around 45% yes. To this one man replies: “The second question was worded as “Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color/racial background”. I answered that question “No”, because I’d be fine dating white, middle-eastern, latin-american, native-american, and asian women, but I’d simply not be attracted to african-american women. That is NOT racism, however – I work and socially interact with black women, and don’t have any problem with it. Developing an intimate relationship, however, is a very different thing.” I would date every race except black bitches. BUT I KNOW BLACK LADIES SO I’M TOTALLY NOT A BIGOT. A lot of people think this way. A fucking lot. On the one hand it’s hard to fault people for being products of their environment - that is, finding attractive the people we are TOLD to find attractive. But on the other, I’m not about to give everyone a pass because “that’s just how things are”. My ass, you can kiss it. It’s hard for me to really explain how it feels to be a part of the group that is overwhelmingly undesired. To be seen as universally unattractive. Of course there are so many factors that led to how this data came to be, geography, age, culture and so on, but let’s not kid ourselves. The data would tell a similar story no matter how you slice it. The one group that has it worse that us - Indian men. Where my Indian fellas at? Let’s commiserate.

    Your Race Affects Whether People Write You Back » OK Cupid Blog

    Before you say anything - it’s actually well done and an interesting read.

    The OK Cupid staff processed some raw data to find out exactly how users matched across race and subsequently, how users respond to others across races. The results weren’t particularly shocking as I am living it everyday, but still, to see this chart I get a very real physical reaction. A general malaise. In short, Black women are the least desirable women on the site. And overwhelmingly so. I mean look at that sad pink/orange bar.

    In the comment’s section of the post, hundreds of faux scholars (idiots) drolled on about how this data doesn’t mean anything, and maybe it’s just CULTURAL differences, maybe more black women are fat. Maybe more black women use bad grammar/text speak. It’s totally not racist to not want to date one race. It’s just a preference!

    I wish there were a sound associated with plainface, blank stare blinking - the sound of eyelashes going up and down. Because that’s what you’d hear from me right now. Toothsuck.

    I agree that a preference and inclination to your own race is not racist. But the buck stops there. EXCLUDING races is, in fact, fucked up. It’s not racist in the sense that Blacks riding in the back of the bus was institutionally racist, but I mean, come on.

    In the article, they also display users’ answers to the question “Would you prefer to date someone of your own race?” Non-whites answered around the 25% yes, 75% no range while white men and women were around 45% yes. To this one man replies:

    “The second question was worded as “Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own skin color/racial background”. I answered that question “No”, because I’d be fine dating white, middle-eastern, latin-american, native-american, and asian women, but I’d simply not be attracted to african-american women. That is NOT racism, however – I work and socially interact with black women, and don’t have any problem with it. Developing an intimate relationship, however, is a very different thing.”

    I would date every race except black bitches. BUT I KNOW BLACK LADIES SO I’M TOTALLY NOT A BIGOT. A lot of people think this way. A fucking lot. On the one hand it’s hard to fault people for being products of their environment - that is, finding attractive the people we are TOLD to find attractive. But on the other, I’m not about to give everyone a pass because “that’s just how things are”. My ass, you can kiss it.

    It’s hard for me to really explain how it feels to be a part of the group that is overwhelmingly undesired. To be seen as universally unattractive. Of course there are so many factors that led to how this data came to be, geography, age, culture and so on, but let’s not kid ourselves. The data would tell a similar story no matter how you slice it.

    The one group that has it worse that us - Indian men. Where my Indian fellas at? Let’s commiserate.

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  2. A good, solid, legit crush is the best thing ever.

    sade:

    Fucking completely unparalleled.

    Until it turns out to be the worst thing ever.

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  3. Maybe the laser backgrounds would have made them happy?

    I work for a small non-profit which has about 6 local employees and 7 remote employees scattered across the country. Everyone was here in DC for a meeting, so yesterday I was asked to bring my camera in to take head shots of everyone for the website’s staff page.

    People freaked. Out.

    “Why didn’t you tell us it was picture day!? I don’t like this color I have on! I don’t look good against this wall color. Oh god do I have to smile?”

    One woman, I swear to god, almost started crying. “No, I don’t have to be on the website. No! No you don’t need my picture, that’s ok. No.” X 100.

    And there I am with my camera, just blinking at her. Blank stare. Toothsuck.

    When I say “headshot” please note that I’m talking about some little 100-pixel thing that maybe 7 people will see. Again, 13 employees. Minor league. This shit is not fucking google.com, ok?

    Nothing about this is that serious.

    Multiple people, beleaguered by the idea of a PHOTO OF THEMSELVES ON THE INTERNET asked “Are YOU having your picture taken?” First of all, your tone, I don’t like it. Second of all yes I am and do you see this wrinkled shirt I’m wearing? I don’t give two fucks. Snap the picture and let’s go.

    And by the way, no, you can not send me the photo of your choice.

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